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Fear is a natural, normal human emotion. It’s supposed to alert us to danger so we can take steps to make sure we stay safe. Children have a different understanding of what is dangerous than many adults do, which is why there are some things they are especially prone to be scared of. That can be tough to see as a parent, so what are some common fears and what can you do to help?
Fear of the Dark
We absorb so much information about the world around us through our sense of sight. We rely heavily on it, which can make being unable to see a pretty scary experience, especially for children. That can be compounded by loud or scary noises, scary stories, or seeing something frightening on the TV.
Fear of the dark tends to start around age 3-4 when the imagination is really taking off. You can help your child feel more comfortable in the dark by talking to them about why they’re scared. Use a calming bedtime routine to help them relax. Some children may find comfort in using a nightlight as well.
Fear of the Doctor or Dentist
Most people don’t get too excited about seeing the doctor or the dentist. Some children go beyond reluctant though–they’re straight-up scared. These visits are full of adult strangers who poke and prod the child. If shots are involved, they may be painful too, further compounding feelings of fear. There are a few ways to help.
The time of day you schedule your dentist appointment can affect how stressful it can be. Schedule the appointment for when your child will be well-rested and not hungry (the same goes for doctor appointments). Talk to your child about what to expect. Be honest, especially if something is going to hurt. Talk to the healthcare professional as well. They may be able to adjust their approach to help your child feel less scared.
Fear of Monsters under the Bed
Remember that developing sense of imagination? It’s usually the main culprit behind the fear of monsters under the bed. Like fear of the dark, it may be triggered by scary noises, stories, and movies. The difference for young children is that they don’t always differentiate between what is real and what isn’t–to them, the monster under the bed is very real at that moment. Reassure your child that monsters aren’t real. You understand that they’re scared, but there aren’t any monsters under their bed (or in their closet). Be careful with what your children are exposed to as well. Avoiding scary imagery can help avoid this fear from being as powerful.
As a parent, you want your children to be happy and healthy. It’s hard to see them feeling scared, especially when you know there isn’t a need for them to feel that way. Try to remember that gentle support is usually enough to help children cope with normal levels of fear. Be calm and confident. Over time, your children will learn that it’s okay because you’ve shown them that it is.
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